When the Same Patterns Keep Showing Up in Your Relationships
Maybe you keep ending up with people who can’t meet you. Maybe you shut down the second things get close, or you can’t stop reaching for reassurance even when you know it’s pushing someone away. Maybe you’re the “strong one” who never asks for help — until you’re alone with it at 2am.
If your relationships keep hitting the same wall, the wall usually isn’t the relationship. It’s something older. Something your nervous system learned to do a long time ago to survive, and never unlearned.
That’s the work I do — with you, one-on-one.
What This Work Looks Like
I specialize in individual therapy for adults carrying attachment injuries, complex trauma, and relational wounds — the kind that started early and quietly shape everything since. Using EMDR alongside a somatic, body-based approach I’ve developed over 20+ years of clinical practice, we work to actually process what happened, not just talk about it.
This isn’t insight-only therapy. You won’t leave every session with a tidy new perspective and the same stuck feeling in your chest. EMDR and somatic work target the parts of the brain and body where the original wound actually lives, so the charge underneath the pattern can finally settle.
This Work Is For You If:
– You notice the same relationship pattern repeating no matter who you’re with
– You want to understand *why* you react the way you do before you’re in it again
– You’re doing your own work, not trying to fix or process a relationship in real time
– You’re ready to look at family-of-origin material, not just the most recent breakup or fight
– You want a therapist who won’t just validate the story, but help you actually change your body’s response to it
A Note on What I Don’t Do
I don’t offer couples counseling or family therapy. My practice is individual, adult, one-on-one work. If what you’re carrying shows up *in* your relationships, we’ll absolutely go there — attachment wounds only make sense in relational context. But the work itself is yours. You’re the client, not the relationship.
Why EMDR
EMDR was built to help the brain finish processing what it got stuck on. For attachment trauma specifically, that often means early experiences of not being seen, not being safe, or not being able to count on the people who were supposed to show up. Those experiences don’t stay in the past just because time passes — they stay active until they’re processed. EMDR gives us a way to do that directly.
Ready to Do This Work?
If you’re a motivated adult ready to understand your patterns at the root instead of managing them from the surface, I’d be glad to talk.